Definition of Love

I hope you know that I'm not only going to write about my travels or the countries which I visit. I am also going to write about some topics, which are basically part of our lives.

Don't expect an intention behind the title. I had to make it catchy :)

Of course there are people who don't let love enter their lives, or people who cannot even live without their love to someone. But if you want it or not, it is there. It will always exist.

Even though everything in this world has its own definition, love is one of those few things which means for every person something else. Some people describe love as "belonging to someone", others describe it as "not being able to live without that one person". I think there are billions of definitions of love. However the precise definition of love is that "love encompasses a range of strong and positive emotional and mental states, from the most sublime virtue or good habit, the deepest interpersonal affection and to the simplest pleasure"

But what love exactly means for me, that's what you gonna find out in this blog:

I don't know where to start, since it's way different than a travel blog. But let's start somehow right in the middle....

I'm pretty sure that you've heard the sentence "every person who enters in your life are either a present or a test for you" before. What you experience with this person, shows you at the end if he or she will be a part of your life or nothing at all.

Whenever we think that there are many things to say about love, it is actually kinda hard to put them all together. I don't have an intention behind this blog to tell you my whole love life or my past. I don't want to mention any names here.

I just want to share my thoughts and feelings about "love" with you, so you can tell me your opinions about it too!

There is nothing right or wrong behind this subject, that's why it's a pretty widely open theme. Whenever you experience almost every kind of love, it's easier for you to talk about it. Because you're experienced in it! Of course there are also people who met only one person - the love of their lives - with whom they spent their entire life. However, they actually never felt the bad side of love. Unfortunately I did, like the most of the people who read this blog. There are indefinite types of love, like the no mutual love, unconditional love, and many more... if you had to experience all three types - like me - I hope that this text will touch your heart in a good way.

Some people just say "I love you" without even putting a meaning behind it. But some people actually mean it with all their heart. It's not about to saying it, it's much more...

For me, loving someone is thinking about that one person the whole day, night - better said - the whole time. Even if you're doing something really important; this person just doesn't leave your head, or your heart... your heart just beats for them. You love someone, no matter what they do. And of course, there are people around you, who maybe say that your love of your life has a bad personality. But if you really love someone, you also love their weaknesses. It doesn't matter for you, because you love him/her either way. Whenever you think about them the whole night, you probably also think about your future - with him/her. If you can imagine this person right next to you in 10 years, go for it. I don't know how it works for you, but I start relationships when I think it could be serious one day. Why should I waste my time for someone who will just be next to me for a specific amount of time? If I love someone, I want to love them forever, put everything what I have into this relationship so we can make a marriage out of it. So we can talk about it later, maybe with our children. If I really love someone and start a relationship, I am connecting my path or my life with them. And there are also people who don't even let love enter their lives. It's good from the one side, but also bad, because they are actually missing the best feeling in this world - at least it's for me the best feeling. Of course I also had - trust me, more than enough - times where I cried over someone, because I love them damn much, but that's just the way it is. Even being sad about something which has to do with your love of your life, is still a part of your passion for them. Why do you think we cry over little things? Whenever you love someone very much, you also cry over them a lot if they should make a mistake... that's unbelievable how we can love someone but at the same time they can get into our biggest nightmare. I hope there are also people out there who are in a good relationship and still enjoy this blog. I'm just writing down everything what goes through my mind. I think it's the best feeling to feel connected with someone and having a heart which beats only for them. Love will gain its biggest form when you still love someone after big mistakes like being cheated or being lied to several times. I think those two are the most hurtful mistakes, because if one of those things will happen, all of your trust will disappear in that second. And unfortunately, you won't lose your trust just for them, but also for other people, because once you get cheated on, you will always think that everyone will do the same or at least go behind your back or just lie to you. I hope you never got to experience it or won't ever experience it. Trust me, it's hard to handle with. Once you get into that hole, it takes a lot of time to recover or let people into your life. As we all know, trust is something which has a big role in every type of relation, even in friendships, partnerships etc. And if trust is missing in any of those relations, this relation will never last forever... believe it or not, but that's how it works.

Maybe some of you won't agree with me when I say that jealousy has to be in a relationship. You can keep your opinion if you want to but let me tell you some things about it as an experienced person: jealousy is also something which has to take a role in a relationship. I'm not saying that jealousy is good if you exaggerate. Since it's connected with trust, you shouldn't be that jealous. It doesn't mean that a person who's jealous is someone who doesn't trust his partner. That's only the case if jealousy overcomes trust. I think we all know what jealousy is, but for clarification: you're jealous, whenever your wonderful partner gets in contact with someone else, or looks at someone deeply etc. there are many situations where someone can get jealous pretty easy. I'm not saying this because I'm jealous too, I'm saying this because jealousy just belongs to a relationship. If you're not jealous, you basically don't care about it what your partner does with other people. Some of you will come up with "I am not jealous about my gf/bf because I trust her/him". Even though you trust your partner, that doesn't mean that other people around you are careful to your partner.

And trust me, the feeling of how your partner gets jealous of you, is indescribably good from the one side because that jealousy makes you think that your partner doesn't want to share you with someone else. However, from the other side, if someone takes jealousy too serious, it can bring awful and maybe also hurtful consequences. So what I'm trying to say is, that jealousy has to be in a healthy relationship within a necessary amount of it.

I think you really love someone, when you can talk about them for hours, constantly. It's insane, because I am that type of person who puts her love of her life into the center of her life while other people see them as their toys. And this type of persons still call it "love". Just crazy...

You can call it love when your eyes always look for them, wherever you go...

You can call it love when you want to spend your whole day - better said your whole life - with them. You put everything (besides your family) to the background, because you want to spend every second with that person. You never get annoyed or bored of them.

You can call it love whenever you don't find enough words to describe them because they are basically your definition of love. It's always said that no one is perfect. But you see your partner as perfect even though he/she also has his/her weaknesses and bad sides. You love it even if he talks about random or useless things all the time? Maybe you adore his hideous style of clothing? You love it when he laughs awkwardly? Or you love situations with him where he is embarrassing all the time? That's what we call love... It doesn't matter for you, because you love everything about him/her. You even love all the ugliest pictures of them. If you have to smile every time you see him, that's what we call "being attracted to someone".

You can call it love when your heart beats faster every time you see him, without no reason.

You can call it love whenever you're shy every time you meet your partner. And that's normal, because you always think that your boyfriend doesn't like you or you're afraid of saying or doing something wrong.

There are many situations and things which we call "love". But what about distances or loving someone unconditionally (one way)? I had this type of love, too. This type of love is the shady side of the actual love, because it's only one way. You feel connected to someone but you actually aren't because the person for whom your heart beats for, doesn't even see you as an option or doesn't see you as his/her partner in general. This way of loving someone is really the hardest but the realest. Even if you know that he never will be yours, you still love them, because there is no moment where you don't think of them. Or you imagine your future with them, so how could you outplay your emotions and feelings... of course you would wish them to start a relationship with you but you're so into them - even if they treat you so badly - that you don't even look at other guys. You love them so much that you would give them everything what you have, even your heart, your soul, your body...basically everything only to reach the mutual love. There are people who spend their entire life loving someone who doesn't even care about them. That's actually the saddest and really hurtful side of love. Loving someone endlessly but being treated like a piece of - you know what I mean. Even that treatment doesn't change anything. That's just how our feelings and our heart works. I'm sure if you could do it, you would definitely tell your heart to get over that person who doesn't even deserve a grain of your valuable love... it mostly happens to those persons who know how to appreciate someone and love them the right way or to persons who have so many good character traits. This fact is actually really sad...Just imagine, while you cry over them the whole night, they're either sleeping or spending the most special moments with another person. While you think about them they're doing something else and don't care about you. While you miss them, they actually look for someone else or are having their best lives. You're making your life into a nightmare by letting your heart beat for them for days, weeks, and years while they enjoy the easy side of love. Even if this is unfair I know or I want to believe that these people who once let their love take control over their lives, they will definitely meet that one person who will do the same in the future. I'm not saying that it will happen soon to them, but one day it will (hopefully) happen...trying to think positively about them...

But for example if you had a relationship with someone and he broke up with you even if you still love him, you actually really love that person if you want them to be happy with someone else. I'm not saying that you are going to be happy about the fact that he erased you but you're at least happy FOR HIM that he found the right person. I think this way of thinking and loving is also pretty hard, because the majority doesn't accept the decision of their partners. I mean if it doesn't work, why are you so greedy and stuffy after them. Just let them be happy and look for your own life. Why should you cry over it or have a relationship with one way of loving while you could enjoy your life and start a better relationship with someone else?

I'm not sure how many of you will be in my opinion, but I think everyone in this world has its own soul mate. You just have to wait for them because they appear one day in front of you, or you just have to look out for them. Only because a relationship doesn't work for the first time, this doesn't mean that you'll stay single your entire life. Of course, if it's your decision to do so, go for it. I mean there are many many people who still enjoy their lives to the fullest even if they're alone.

But trust me, you should have this feeling of being connected to someone at least once. Because I think love is very special and unique, especially if someone loves YOU. Being treated like a princess or like the most beautiful person in this world is an indescribable precious feeling.

"Only once in your life, I truly believe, you can find someone who can completely turn your world around. You tell them things that you've never shared with another soul and they absorb everything you say and actually want to hear more. You share hopes for the future, dreams that will maybe come true, goals that were never achieved and the many disappointments life has thrown at you. When something wonderful happens, you can't wait to tell them about it, knowing they will share your excitement. They are not embarrassed to cry with you when you are hurt or laugh with you when you make a fool of yourself. Never do they hurt your feelings or make you feel like you are not good enough, but rather they build you up and show you the things about yourself that make you special and even beautiful. You can be yourself and not worry about what they will think of you because they love you for who you are. The things that seem insignificant to most people such as a note, song or walk become invaluable treasures kept safe in your heart to cherish forever. Memories of your childhood come back and are so clear and vivid it's like being young again. Colours seem brighter and more brilliant. Laughter seems part of daily life where before it was infrequent or didn't exist at all. A phone call or two during the day helps to get you through a long day's work and always brings a smile to your face. In their presence, there's no need for continuous conversation, but you find you're quite content in just having them nearby. Things that never interested you before become fascinating because you know they are important to this person who is special to you. You think of this person on every occasion and in everything you do. Simple things bring them to mind like a pale blue sky, gentle wind or even a storm cloud on the horizon. You open your heart knowing that there's a chance it may be broken one day and in opening your heart, you experience a love and joy that you never dreamed possible. You find that being vulnerable is the only way to allow your heart to feel true pleasure that's so real it scares you. You find strength in knowing you have a true friend and possibly a soul mate who will remain loyal to the end. Life seems completely different, exciting and worthwhile. Your only hope and security is in knowing that they are a part of your life." - Bob Marley

There are more than thousands of quotes about love, but this text of Bob Marley summarises precisely and wonderful the definition of love, even though I think that there are never enough words to describe this big and strong feeling having for someone...

If you want me to do another part of this topic, let me know!

Don't forget to love and treat everyone, like you want to be loved and treated :)

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